While you are searching the cyberspace for that special soul-mate, you can do a lot of things right. But you can also do a lot of things wrong that will guarantee failure and a broken heart. Out in the “real” world, being aggressive, demanding perfection and even little white lies are all ingredients for success. However, those same qualities are killers when you are dating online and offline, too.
There's a big difference between being aggressive or confident and being too aggressive, over-confident, or just plain sleazy from a woman’s point of view. If you push too hard for a face-to-face, you will come across as too aggressive, maybe even, scary. Remember that you are not trying to close a business deal and keep the relationship progressing at a slow but steady pace. PATIENCE is the key.
Nobody's perfect. We are all flawed in one way or another. If you expect the man or woman to be absolutely perfect and demand that, you'll always be disappointed. Demanding perfectionism in your work is one thing. Demanding perfectionism from a friend, co-worker or a person you are interested in is not just fine. It won’t happen. Expect flaws and just deal with them. Decide the ones you can live with and those you can’t.
Little white lies and false fronts won’t work. Be honest from the beginning of a relationship. Write your profile and make it interesting but don’t make false statements. The truth will come out eventually anyway. If you say you are a lawyer who makes a million bucks a year but in reality you are an electrician that makes $75,000, you are setting yourself up for failure.
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